A: School refusal is exactly what the name suggests: kids protesting going to school. They’ll often get very upset as a result of some form of emotional distress, like anxiety or fear.
It’s not just limited to blatant ‘refusal’ though. Your child might agree to go to school, but end up coming home early or spending long periods in the sick bay.
A: Kids might refuse to go to school for many reasons. But some of the more common ones include separation anxiety, social problems and learning difficulties.
However, off the back of a pandemic where children were home-schooled, we can probably narrow down the cause to any of the following:
A: It’ll be reasonably obvious if your child doesn’t want to go to school.
We’ve all seen the cliché movie scene where a child wakes up suspiciously ‘ill’, too unwell to go to school for the day. But if that behaviour becomes a daily occurrence (or their sickness improves when you let them stay home), it might be a cause for concern.
You might also witness tantrums, crying episodes, behavioural issues and conflict with other family members. Your child might beg or plead not to go – and complain of headaches, tiredness or an upset stomach beforehand. They may also exhibit panic or physiological symptoms of anxiety.
As a parent, your judgement is best. If you think something’s up with your child, it probably is.
A: Like adults, children are averse to negative feelings. And just like us, they’ll try to avoid them if possible.
So, their solution to avoiding the coronavirus, separation anxiety or the schooltime routine is to stay at home. But the more they avoid it, the harder it will be for them to go back. And in the meantime, they risk falling behind in their academic, social and emotional development.
That’s why it’s best to address school refusal as early as possible.
A: There are many techniques you can use to help support your child’s return to school – before their avoidance becomes habitual.
Begin by trying to get to the bottom of what’s really worrying them (and their first answer may not be the truth). The key is to pinpoint the issue as early as possible so that you can address it.
Other strategies to explore include:
A: Introducing your child to a psychologist can help them address their worries and develop strategies to overcome them.
A child psychologist with direct experience in this realm is well placed to:
And remember that school refusal can be hard on the whole family. So if anyone else in your household is suffering as a result, it’s important to address that too.
If your child is exhibiting signs of school refusal, we can help. You don’t have to battle it on your own. To book an appointment, call us on 1300 995 636.